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Anthropic Researcher Warns There’s ‘>10% Chance’ AI Could ‘Ki-l All Humans’ By Next Decade

Anthropic Researcher Warns There’s ‘>10% Chance’ AI Could ‘Ki-l All Humans’ By Next Decade

https://www.forbes.com/sites/siladityaray/2026/09/09/anthropic-alignment-lead-warns-ai-could-ki-l-all-humans-as-researcher-quits/


Fake Job Postings

Post the fake job titles, Job IDs, posting start and end dates, and any relevant details. Post here and all over the social media. If naming specific hiring managers, senior managers, or HR recruiters violates privacy, please do not name them directly. Instead, use innovative, secure, or anonymous methods to expose how these teams were staffed. Job postings and advertisements are publicly accessible information. If they are fake, they should be publicly shamed.


Ten Ways to Handle A Toxic Boss Without Getting Fired.

Source: Fuel Your Growth

The Boss Hawk
Over-Communicate. Flood their inbox with updates until they back off or tap out.

The Control Freak
Stay in control. Make them think they're in charge. Psychological jiu-jitsu.

The Endless Checker
Set firm deadlines. If they ask early, point to the schedule.

The Task Interrupter
Ask politely; "Should I delay other projects for this?" They will think twice.

The Meeting Phanatic
Push for agendas and short meetings. Treat them like speed-dating.

The Nitpicker
Ask for a style guide. Either they back off or create one.

The Ideal Thief
Document everything. CC others to protect your work.

The Trust Phobic
Rack up small wins to build trust. Start small, deliver big.

The Insecure Boss
Stroke their ego a bit. Easier to manage than fight.

The Credit Hound
Praise the team first. Beat them to the punch.


Do this when you know a PIP or RA is in the works

Lots of good info sharing and advice sharing here as IBM ramps up PIPs and RAs to levels no one thought possible. In 38 states below it might be a very good idea to record all mtgs with your mgmt. to protect yourself and your rights.

In the United States, you can legally record a conversation without telling the other person in 38 states and Washington, D.C., provided that you are an active participant in the conversation. These are known as one-party consent states, meaning only one person (you) needs to consent to the recording.

https://www.rev.com/blog/phone-call-recording-laws-state)

It remains a federal crime to record a conversation that you are not a part of (e.g., leaving a hidden device in a room to eavesdrop on others).

States Where You Can Record Secretly (One-Party Consent)The following states allow you to secretly record conversations you participate in:

Alabama
Alaska
Arizona
Arkansas
Colorado
Georgia
Hawaii (Note: Requires all-party consent if the recording device is installed in a private place)
Idaho
Indiana
Iowa
Kansas
Kentucky
Louisiana
Maine
Minnesota
Mississippi
Missouri
Nebraska
New Jersey
New Mexico
New York
North Carolina
North Dakota
Ohio
Oklahoma
Rhode Island
South Carolina
South Dakota
Tennessee
Texas
Utah
Vermont (Has no specific state statute, so it defaults to federal one-party rules)
Virginia
West Virginia
Wisconsin
Wyoming


Keeping it Simple for C-suite Executives

What we want:

  1. For American Citizens to not be replaced with Non-Citizens
  2. For American Humans to not be replaced with AI
  3. For Health Insurance Corporations to do much better at stopping Fraud, Waste, and Abuse
  4. For Health Insurance Corporations to stop delaying and denying legitimate patient health claims, regardless of the cost
  5. For Health Insurance Corporations to out patient health before cost savings and shareholder profits
  6. For Health Insurance Executives to stop being paid anything greater than $1 million per year (remembering that 85% of their salary is coming from government funded tax payer dollars)
  7. For costly Data Centers to not use up so water to be used for energy source*
  8. For Data Centers to pay their own way when it comes to electricity*
  • The last two items are not within the direct control of health insurance corporations, although they have a large hand in lobbying and campaigning for Data Centers to be placed all over the country, including (and especially) within the same states for which they operate.

15 common lies hiring managers tell during job interviews

Story by James Stephens

The following are among the most common lies hiring managers tell, helping you spot red flags and ask the right questions during your job search. By recognizing these patterns, you can navigate the hiring process with confidence and avoid falling for empty promises. Let’s dive in and expose the truth behind these common hiring myths!

"There’s plenty of room for growth."
This phrase sounds promising, but it’s often as vague as a fortune cookie. “Growth” might mean taking on more responsibilities without a promotion or pay raise. Companies love to dangle this carrot, but without specifics, it’s hard to know if you’ll actually climb the ladder—or just stay on the first rung.

Ask for examples of employees who’ve advanced within the company. If they can’t name anyone, the only thing growing might be your workload. A clear career path beats vague promises, so dig deeper to find out if “growth” means opportunity or just a clever sales pitch.

"We’ll get back to you soon."
This line is the professional equivalent of “I’ll text you later.” It sounds polite, but it often leads to ghosting or weeks of radio silence. Companies use this phrase to buy time or avoid giving immediate feedback, leaving candidates in limbo.

If you don’t hear back, follow up with a polite email. But don’t wait forever—treat this as a red flag. If they’re this unresponsive during the hiring process, imagine how they’ll handle communication once you’re on the team. Sometimes, “soon” really means “never,” so keep your options open.

"We have a great company culture."
“Great company culture” often translates to free snacks and a ping-pong table, while ignoring toxic managers or high turnover. It’s a buzzword companies use to sound appealing, but it rarely tells the full story.

Ask about team dynamics, conflict resolution, or how they support employees during tough times. If they dodge the question or only mention surface-level perks, the “great culture” might be more of a marketing ploy. Remember, a truly great culture goes beyond happy hours and beanbag chairs—it’s about how employees are treated every day.

"Your resume will be kept on file."
This phrase is the hiring world’s version of “It’s not you, it’s me.” It sounds hopeful, but in reality, your resume will likely gather digital dust in a forgotten folder. Companies rarely revisit old resumes unless a role perfectly matches your profile.

If you’re genuinely interested in future opportunities, don’t rely on this promise. Stay proactive by setting up job alerts, following the company on LinkedIn, and reapplying when relevant roles open up. “Kept on file” might sound nice, but it’s no substitute for staying visible and engaged.

"The role’s responsibilities are flexible."
“Flexible” often means “we’ll expect you to do everything.” This phrase can mislead candidates into thinking they’ll have autonomy, but the reality might involve rigid expectations and a never-ending to-do list.

Ask for specific examples of how flexibility applies to the role. If they can’t provide clear answers, prepare for a job that stretches you in all the wrong ways. Flexibility should empower you, not overwhelm you, so make sure the role aligns with your skills and career goals before signing on.

"We offer competitive salaries."
“Competitive” with what? Minimum wage? Without specifics, this phrase often means salaries are average—or even below market rates. Companies use it to sound appealing while avoiding actual numbers.

Research industry benchmarks and ask for a salary range during the interview. If they hesitate or dodge the question, it’s a sign they might not be offering what you’re worth. Remember, a truly competitive salary doesn’t need vague marketing—it speaks for itself. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

"We prioritize work-life balance."
This phrase often hides a reality of long hours and constant availability. Companies love to claim they support work-life balance, but the truth might involve late-night emails and weekend deadlines.

Ask about specific policies, like flexible hours or remote work options. If they can’t provide concrete examples, their version of “balance” might just mean you’re balancing work on your back. Look for signs that they respect personal time, like clear boundaries and a culture that values rest as much as productivity.

"We’re financially stable."
When companies emphasize financial stability, it can sometimes mean they’re trying to distract you from layoffs or budget cuts. This phrase sounds reassuring, but it’s worth digging deeper to confirm.

Research the company’s financial health through public records, news articles, or employee reviews. If they’re truly stable, they’ll have no problem being transparent about their finances. On the other hand, if they’re vague or defensive, it might be time to reconsider. Stability should be a given, not a sales pitch.

"You’ll have access to professional development."
“Access” doesn’t always mean “opportunity.” Companies often promise training and growth, but the reality may involve little more than a dusty bookshelf of outdated manuals.

Ask for examples of past training programs or budgets allocated for professional development. If they can’t provide specifics, their commitment to your growth might be more talk than action. True professional development requires investment, so make sure the company is willing to back up their promises with real resources.

"We’re like a family here."
“We’re like a family” often translates to blurred boundaries and overwork. While it sounds warm and inviting, it can mean you’re expected to prioritize work over your personal life.

Look for signs of healthy boundaries, like clear work hours and respect for time off. A “family” culture can sometimes lead to burnout if not managed properly. Remember, you’re looking for a job, not an adoption. A professional environment with mutual respect beats a dysfunctional “family” any day.

"We value employee feedback."
Companies love to say they value feedback, but in practice, it often goes straight into the void. This phrase can serve as a way to appear open-minded without actually implementing changes.

Ask for examples of how employee feedback has led to improvements. If they can’t name any, their commitment to listening might be more about appearances than action. Feedback should lead to growth, not just a checkbox on a survey.

"The hiring budget is flexible."
“Flexible” often means “we’ll lowball you and hope you don’t notice.” Companies use this phrase to sound accommodating, but it’s often a tactic to keep salaries as low as possible.

Come prepared with market data and your salary expectations. If they push back or hesitate to meet your worth, their “flexibility” might only work in their favor. Don’t be afraid to negotiate for what you deserve.

"We’re open to remote work."
“Open to remote work” can quickly turn into “we need you in the office.” Some companies use this line to attract candidates, only to later push for in-person attendance.

Clarify their remote work policy and ask about long-term expectations. If they start talking about “team synergy” or “office culture,” prepare for a commute. Transparency upfront saves you from future frustration.

"We discourage talking to current employees."
This phrase screams red flag. If a company discourages you from speaking with staff, they’re likely hiding something—like unhappy employees or a toxic work environment.

Push back politely and ask why they discourage these conversations. A company confident in its culture should welcome transparency, not avoid it. If they’re cagey, it’s worth reconsidering the opportunity.

"We’re committed to diversity and inclusion."
“Committed” doesn’t always mean “active.” Many companies talk about diversity and inclusion but fail to back it up with meaningful action.

Ask about specific initiatives, employee resource groups, or metrics that track progress. If their answers feel rehearsed or vague, their “commitment” might be more about appearances than real change. True diversity requires effort, not just a tagline.


Cobra Confusion

Question for anyone that was recently laid off. The Severance agreement states that we will be automatically enrolled in our current health benefit plans on September 1st but I also received a letter stating that I need to select a COBRA plan by November 1st? I tried calling but got someone that didn't seem to know what they were talking about and just advised me to login and pick a plan. I have been on a grandfathered health plan for years and don't want to mess anything up. Any advice out there?


Cobra Confusion

Question for anyone that was recently laid off. The Severance agreement states that we will be automatically enrolled in our current health benefit plans on September 1st but I also received a letter stating that I need to select a COBRA plan by November 1st? I tried calling but got someone that didn't seem to know what they were talking about and just advised me to login and pick a plan. I have been on a grandfathered health plan for years and don't want to mess anything up. Any advice out there?


Life hacks I know at 36, I wish I knew at 19

Source: M. Gray

  1. Learn Storytelling

Storytelling is the highest intangible ROI skill you can learn

Sales, hiring, marketing, it's all storytelling.

Start with basic storytelling frameworks (e.g. the Hero's Journey) and the 7 fundamental emotions.

And watch how listeners turn into believers.

  1. Rethink Health

Everything changed for me when I came across Symbiotic Success:

Your health directly affects achievement, even if you can't see it.

Now I prioritize meditation, lifting weights and nutrition.

Success is a game of longevity and health is your competitive moat.

  1. Work Like a Lion

Society has conditioned us to work like we're cows grazing.

Low focus.
Long hours.
Minimal output.

Instead, work less, but work like a hunting lion.

Sprint. Rest. Repeat.

  1. Find Your Peak Energy State

Optimal hours, environment, and work style differ for everyone.

Keep experimenting until you find your most productive state, when you don't have to fight yourself to get stuff done.

Once you find it, energy flows where your focus will be.

  1. Learn to Communicate Concisely

Most people's emails and messages are full of fluff:

'Hope you're well!'
'I just wanted to ask...'
'Could we circle back on...'

Stop.

Be concise and get to the point, your value increases with the effort your readers save.

  1. Be Happy for Other People's Successes

It's a positive-sum world out there; there are 22 million millionaires in the US alone.

Recognize that one person's success isn't your failure and offer genuine congratulations.

Joy for others manifests future accolades for you.

  1. Be Boring

A lot of success comes from just saying no to cheap dopamine.

And instead, focusing on the mundane:

• Maximizing sleep
• Guarding time for workouts
• Not eating out in favor of your nutritious diet

Boring's the secret the successful don’t want you to know.


Need a good job at Cisco?

Forget engineering and join legal. It's dynamic and creative, they are busy but well compensated. Cisco has developed this competency like no other company and this tells you a lot about the direction of the company - extract and protect is the mantra nowadays. Lawyers are not better than engineers, but here at Cisco they can thrive just because that's the game nowadays.


The LinkedIn job scam

These are growing in number, so I just thought to warn other people who're as desperate to leave as I am. Be careful of recruiters reaching out on LinkedIn, and if a job looks too good, it probably is. Check the name, the phone number, and the company. Sadly, times like these attract many predators.


Recommendations for job search

Curious to what people have done to successfully find employment elsewhere. Does LinkedIn really work? I see a lot of job postings on there, but also lots of applicants. Are recruiter/head hunters still the best route? What has worked and what hasn't. Thanks in advance and hope for helpful responses.


Stay Calm & Stay Prepared

If there are rumors that layoffs may happen on September 2nd, they may happen that day, but the timing could also be different, such as August 31st or September 1st. We saw a similar situation last year. Unfortunately, there are some things we simply cannot control.

If you’re concerned about your position, make sure your work and contributions are visible. Touch base with your VP, communicate what you’ve been working on, share your accomplishments, discuss any concerns, and ask where you can take on additional work. During a restructuring, decisions can be difficult and sometimes are outside your manager’s control, so make sure your contributions are known at the leadership level.

If you suddenly receive a 1:1 meeting invitation or an early morning email, try not to panic. Take a breath and focus on the practical steps. If you are affected, understand your WARN period, severance, benefits, and healthcare options. If applicable, plan ahead for Covered California coverage when your employer coverage ends. Verify the exact dates and benefits with HR before making any decisions.

Most importantly, don’t let the uncertainty consume you or affect your family. Keep your routine: log in and do your work, continue applying for jobs with an updated resume, learn something new, exercise or take a walk, spend time with your family, have dinner, and watch a movie. Keeping a normal routine can help you stay grounded.

Blaming your manager, director, or Oracle may feel natural, but it won’t change the outcome and will only drain your energy. If a layoff happens, focus on what you can control: understand your severance and benefits, arrange healthcare coverage, update your resume, build new skills, take courses, network, and start interviewing.

You will find another opportunity. It may take some time, but keep moving forward. And if you genuinely want to return to Oracle someday, that option may still be there.

There are things we cannot control. Organizational decisions don’t define our value or our careers. A layoff is an event, not a reflection of your worth or abilities.

Take care of yourself, protect your mental health, and take it one day at a time. You’ll get through this. ❤️


Shell as a career

Dear Shell employees, please l will like to get some advice from current and former Shell employees. Shell has been my dream company to work for and l am thinking of pursuing a career with Shell. Please any advice whether it’s a good choice based on the constant layoffs l have been hearing from this site?


AEP for 2027

AEP (Annual Enrollment Program) is only approximately 5 weeks away.

So, to all my social media persons, start now convincing folks that Traditional Medicare is a much better option, especially if they have some catastrophic event and don’t want to have their expensively health claims denied.

This AEP, let’s destroy this corrupt corporation’s membership growth.


Why do so many of you hate AEP so much?

Some of the replies here really make me feel uneasy. If I hated a place as much as some of you do AEP, I'd be long gone. Life is too short to stay somewhere that's making you so miserable. You know that's an option, right? Walk away and find something where you'll be happier. It's that simple.