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I’ve Decided to Sue!

After much deliberation, I have decided to sue my manager and Fannie Mae, both. I fought hard with myself over this, and I seriously considered taking the severance money and staying quiet. After all, I need the money. But I have decided to move forward for the following reasons:

  1. I am established in my field, and it is wrong for me to be laid off from my full-time position while Fannie Mae continues to hire contractors an full-timers.
  2. My manager is a bully. Over the last year, he has forced four "senior" managers out of the organization. He did the same thing over the previous five years, shrinking his organization from 100 people to 10. He got away with all these.
  3. I reported my manager’s erratic behavior to him directly and to his manager, a senior vice president, on two occasions. No action was taken.
  4. I kept a detailed log of his bullying, name-calling, and erratic behavior.
  5. I applied for internal positions and was close to receiving an offer. My manager could not accept the idea of me moving to another team with a promotion, and he was afraid others would learn more about his behavior.

Signing the severance agreement would prevent me from suing my manager or Fannie Mae. I want change. I want common sense to prevail, and I want others to benefit from my doing the right thing.


People are becoming meaner

Is it just me, or are others noticing how everybody is becoming genuinely mean for no good reason? I know nobody likes working here and the stress is sometimes unbearable, but why do some use that as an excuse to bully their coworkers? We're all in this together, for goodness sake.


Visa has changed how I work

I spent years building my reputation as a strong employee, with nothing negative on my record, only for things to go completely downhill under the newer management in my group. I've been experiencing threatening and retaliatory behavior, and it's taken a serious toll on me. My health coverage is essential, and there aren't many comparable jobs where I live, so I'm stuck for now. I'm still doing my job, but I won't keep sacrificing myself for a company that has treated me this way.


Trying to fight while hog tied

A friend on my team, a CM was written up (PIP) for “idle time during calls” aka listening and talking to our mbrs. I helped review screenshots and they weren’t idle, flipping through screens and taking notes. When they tried to contest it HR said the rules are “at the managers discretion”. They brought it to the attention of AD and higher but got nothing but bs about ‘having everyone’s best interests as their highest priority’. When we, as adult professionals for goodness sake, can’t get any support from anywhere and are at the mercy of a sh---y bullying manager what are we supposed to do??? Anyone?


What a waste of time

I finally went to HR about my bully of a manager, and wow, what a waste of time. It went exactly how you'd guess. I laid out everything, and they just nodded along like they'd heard it all before. Turns out my manager had already gotten to them first with his side of the story. I got the whole "we'll look into it" speech, and then nothing. A week later, my schedule suddenly got worse and a project I'd been promised went to someone else. Nobody said it was related, but come on.

Lesson learned: stay away from HR.


CoPilot for HR Case! Ty it.

I have had the most difficult time helping me build an HR case against an SVP who retaliates and regularly attacks me publicly. Copilot has done an amazing job at gathering the facts and putting it together in a nice refined document with proof points. I strongly recommend that anybody else use Copilot to do the same if you were experiencing retaliation of bullying at work.


Do you know what fascinates me?

The leadership allowing for the toxic culture to get worse and worse all the time. Do they not realize that legally, it's a ticking time bo-b? When people are bullied, discriminated against, or driven out, it's only a matter of time before someone takes legal action. It's bound to happen.


My coworkers and I are treated like sh*t by catty leaders

What the title says. I see for example how much they pick on someone on our team, anlways giving them the impossible projects, steamrolling, not setting him up for success, dangling promotions that never come but expecting work done way above their pay grade and level.

Oh oh! Don’t forget. Expecting your best people to be forgiving as these same leaders have tantrums and act out of emotion and pride

Even other leaders in our department can tell. Lots of bullying type of behaviors happening


NY Film Academy Union Secures First Contract

The Association of Teachers & Staff at the New York Film Academy has reached a tentative contract agreement. This marks the union's first contract after 18 months of negotiations. The agreement includes protections against bullying, abuse, and discrimination. It also provides for guaranteed severance pay and notice for layoffs. Members will also see improvements in vacation time and scheduling practices.

New York, NY

https://nycclc.org/news/association-teachers-staff-reaches-tentative-agreement-new


Toxic Onshore Leadership, HR etc are the cause of it all!

Let’s face it, without poor leadership here, they wouldn’t be:
} Ridiculous amount of offshoring
} Incompetent leadership, whether onshore or offshore
} People with H1B in Sr Mgmnt roles, bullying and laying off US Citizens

Without the psychopaths in Legal, HR and Leadership roles,
There wouldn’t be:
} Millions spent on nonsense while laying people off on a monthly basis
} Disgusting layoff packages that highly contradict what they put on Sparq
} Terrible unchecked, toxic acquisitions like OI Change Healthcare
} Bullying, harassment and intimidation of employees, former employees and providers who speak up. People are now taking to the media because if this! SAD!!!!
} Protection of several, possibly all bullies in leadership roles.


Why can’t this stupid id--t good for nothing SM just get laid off?

This is a post regarding a specific je-k I have to see every damn day I go into the office.

I see this scrum master who literally says he took the role just to do nothing all day. He laughs at me since I’m a software engineer, saying stuff like “haha I make more money than you to do less work”. Has a snarky attitude. Just walks in like he owns the place. This is someone who made a reputation for himself for being a lazy person. People on his own team call him a slacker often. He’d literally put his feet up on the desk he’d sit at.

I can’t say too much because he belittles me in front of other people, so I can’t say too much without giving away who this is. But I doubt anyone knows this. Every day when he’s at cafeteria, he order a T bone steak, and walks back to his desk with a styrofoam tray that has the said T bone steak. I used to be able to walk away from my laptop when my workload wasn’t too much. Once every 2 or 3 months for that time period that my work was easier, I’d come back to my desk, and guess what I’d see on my desk? An eaten out of styrofoam tray, with a gnawed on bone of a T bone steak inside of it.

He doesn’t do it anymore so I don’t think I can report it to anyone. I thought about reporting every time he did that or taking pictures for evidence. But I was always afraid of “snitching” or being seen as a problem for reporting the bullying. So, I just dealt with it. I don’t leave my desk at Fidelity (due to workload). I don’t want him to speak with me but he acts like everything is ok and he’s the best thing to ever grace this company. I’m one of the only people that are fine with myself coming into an office for RTO, but he made it so insufferable.

He’s a scrumbag. Why can’t he just get laid off? I thought he was surely gonna be gone but he’s still here. He’s a damn cockroach. Better yet, why can’t I get laid off so I can be free and find another job while getting severance pay? Why can’t we just see him lose the job where he does literally nothing all day, or get demoted to a role where he makes even less money, and realizes he’s sc--wed himself.

I know we have many people who are lazy at Fidelity, prior to the sheer burnout from RTO. But how many people here are THAT level of crude? Smh.


Why RTO truly su-ks

Office politics are so much worse when you have to navigate them in person. From micromanaging to bullying to being put in the middle of arguments... It drains people in a way that's much, much worse than just hearing about it or dealing with it from a distance. I'd take a pay cut to avoid it.


Let’s Be Honest

The more I read these threads, the more I see the same people saying the same things. It’s a bit sad really.

Former employees. Retirees. People who left years ago but still seem oddly invested in every headline and every rumour. I know a few of them personally - nice people but it’s a bit tragic how their identity is tied to a company. They read something in the papers and appear here as though they’re still sitting in the office. They would spend their kids wedding taking about what bp is doing wrong - true story. I find it quite sad, if I’m honest. At some point, you have to move on. Bp owes you nothing. You signed the contract. They followed it.

On bullying, there is truth in it. The post naming initials was accurate. Some of those behaviours were disgraceful and remain a stain on bp’s history. During the ‘good’ years, too many people got away with things because they delivered results. BL a casing point. There are others who could be added to that list. The difference now is that those behaviours are no longer ignored.

What I struggle with is the constant bitterness. A lot of the loudest criticism comes from people carrying old grudges, people who never got the promotion they wanted, or people who have convinced themselves that bp was the source of every setback in their career. That’s an easy story to tell yourself. It just isn’t always true. Let’s leave the future to the generation trying to turn this around.

One of the best things bp has done recently is show some backbone. Poor behaviour is being called out. People are being held accountable. BL and AM are examples. One person who should not be allowed to quietly disappear into the background is (*D) AC. A complete failure of leadership, judgement and self-awareness. Time to go.

The portfolio review is the right decision. Not everyone will agree with it. That’s fine. Leadership is not about making decisions that please everyone. When the details are announced, the reasoning will be clear enough.

And on Meg, I couldn’t disagree more with some of the comments made here. I’ve worked with a number of CEOs, inside and outside bp. She is one of the most impressive. The direction is right. The priorities are right. And she has dealt with a series of challenges that were not of her making with real composure and resilience.

I’ll leave it with this:

“It is not the critic who counts…”

It’s always easier to sit in the stands and tell everyone else what they should have done. Much harder to be the one making the decisions when the outcome actually matters. That’s the difference.


BP cares too much about feelings and not enough about performance

From the Economist today….

Since 2020 as many people have run bp as have run Britain. Sir Keir Starmer, the
fourth prime minister in as many years, promised to end the pantomime in
Westminster. Last year Albert Manifold was appointed as chairman of bp to do the
same thing in nearby St James’s Square. Sir Keir is still hanging on. Mr Manifold is
finished. On May 26th, after less than eight months in post, Mr Manifold was sacked in
a unanimous vote by the board, which includes Meg O’Neill, the oil company’s new
chief executive.
Mr Manifold inherited a neglected giant. The net-zero strategy of his predecessor
Helge Lund, a Norwegian, had made bp uninvestable. It is fitting, then, that Mr
Manifold’s dismissal should have the air of a Eurocratic initiative. The timing of the
directive announcing his departure could not have been better chosen to agitate
markets. It travelled down the wires just as traders in New York returned to their desks
after a bank-holiday weekend and were busy digesting news about a possible end to
America’s war in Iran. Shares in bp fell by nearly 10%.
But the real sin was the statement’s style. It was written in the worst literary tradition
of arrogant, managerial minimalism. Rather than elaborate on the reasons why bp must
now search for another chairman, the board o!ered just a few lines of cryptic lanyard-
speak. There are “serious concerns” about “important governance standards, oversight
and conduct”, the statement said. Trust us, he’s a wrong’un, pleaded a board which
shareholders have little reason to trust. Like Sir Keir, bp’s board appeals confidently to
an authority that has been spent twice over.
Thus began a guessing game: what did Mr Manifold do that was seemingly awful
enough to jeopardise bp’s turnaround? Plotting a coup in some faraway resource-rich
land? Not likely. Trying to sink Ed Miliband, Britain’s fanatical minister for net zero, in
the North Sea? If only. Predictably, initial speculation turned to sleaze. In its recent
history two bp chief executives have left their posts in bizarre circumstances related to
their private lives.
That wasn’t it, either. Instead, Mr Manifold was apparently exiled from clubland for
being a bad chap. The Financial Times reported allegations that he had been viewed by
some at bp as aggressive and that the board had received complaints from whistle-
blowers. Some reportedly called him a bully. On May 28th Mr Manifold responded. Yes,
he may have pushed people to accelerate cost-cutting and strengthen the balance-
sheet. But “at no point”, he wrote, “has anyone raised with me any issue about my
conduct...I dispute entirely this characterisation of my conduct.”
If Mr Manifold was truly intolerable, the board must explain to shareholders in more
detail. If he was merely disagreeable, that is probably proof of a job well done. As a
supposed City grandee herself, Dame Amanda Blanc, the bp director who led the
process to appoint Mr Manifold, would surely have known his City-wide reputation for
directness. Having (very) successfully run crh, an Irish building-materials firm, for a
decade, Mr Manifold could hardly have been expected to be a passive and detached
chairman.
Accusations of abrasiveness are, in the markets’ eyes at least, a less serious crime than
Accusations of abrasiveness are, in the markets’ eyes at least, a less serious crime than
the value destruction of which other members of the board are plainly guilty. Sure, bp
is in much better shape than it was a year ago. Profits from producing oil rise with the
price of the commodity, after all. The company’s traders are making a fortune. Last
year it made a huge discovery o! the coast of Brazil. Its corporate structure is in the
process of being simplified. But the job is not even half finished. Costs are out of
control, including at its headquarters in St James’s. It is the most indebted of the major
oil companies and still bears the weight of some of its worst misadventures in
renewable energy.
Must bp always be as ungovernable as Britain? Oil majors often reflect the politics of
their home countries. Exxon and Chevron are run by men who care little about the
separation of powers. Both run the board and manage the company. Together the firms
are worth $400bn more than a decade ago. The top job at TotalEnergies, the French oil
major, is held by a former civil servant; at Eni, by a colourful Italian. The two have
outperformed their British rival. bp, once in e!ect a branch of the British state in the
Middle East, now mirrors its decline. Whitehall talks about “delivering at pace”; bp,
about “moving at pace”. Neither goes anywhere.
Manifold destiny
The psychodrama at bp could not have been better designed to embarrass Britain’s
business elite. One view is that an outsider was appointed to shake things up at a
national champion before being pushed out unceremoniously by a club of grandees
who talk about change without really wanting it. An alternative reading of Mr
Manifold’s tenure is about as bad: an amateur with little experience in the industry
thought he knew better than the experts and came unstuck. The big American firms
would hardly hand such power to someone new to drilling.
The main problem with reforming Britain’s business elite is that it doesn’t really have
one. Those in America, Japan, France and Germany are all easily pictured. But Britain?
Its once-mighty merchant banks have disappeared. So have its fund managers. Its
biggest companies, like bp, have mostly become a global clearing house for mediocre
management talent.
The City nowadays is best viewed as a battleground between European collectivist
politics and American finance. Capitalist villains such as oil companies, tobacco giants
and banks make up much of Britain’s stockmarket. But the top investment banks and
funds fly the American flag. The saga at bp is a case in point. It threw itself zealously
into net zero. Now it is being disciplined, mostly by Elliott Management, an American
hedge fund. A very British shambles—and an international joke.


The new manager is the final straw

I have put up with being underpaid and overworked for years because I am used to it. But my new manager has crossed a line. I refuse to be yelled at and bullied every single day by someone who only got his job because he knows how to flatter the right people. I am too old for this nonsense. I don't have anything lined up, but I'm going to give my notice next time he gets into my face.


toxic team

vp bolted so directors are now trying to level up themselves by punching down on the lower level members on the team. it’s actually stunning how far you can go by giving all your work to your juniors with zero direction and then publicly dressing them down when it’s not up to your (see: dipsh-t) standards. so much for being an industry veteran when someone with no experience can tell you how it is. the job hunt continues!


Outpatient UM

The leadership of the outpatient UM team needs a rehaul. They don’t know the operations or business well enough to be in those positions and it’s like a high school clique. No room for feedback and snotty bullying like a bunch of mean girls. I’m surprised with all the changes they haven’t used this as an opportunity to get some talent in there.


I need to be honest

Working at Mondelez is making me sick. Not metaphorically. Actually sick. The stress, the harassment, the constant toxicity, it's affecting my health. And I'm not alone. Good employees are leaving every week. I've heard from people in the industry, nobody respects this company anymore. And they certainly don't respect the people who work here. The way we're treated is awful. Harassment is normal. Bullying is standard. This place is toxic from top to bottom and it's taking a real physical toll on the people stuck here.


I'm already over it

This is my first job, I've been here for ten months, and I'm already over it all. Between toxic work atmosphere, managers who're nothing more than bullies, and constant worries about layoffs, how are people able to do this for 40 years of their lives, some even more???


Toxic Work Environment

To every employee that endured the toxic work culture at Schwab, circular, unproductive meetings, meaningless tasks, redlined deliverables, Director micromanagement, bullying, and overall low morale, where others take credit for your work and perpetrators inconsistently meet the actual workers expectations I encourage you to walk away, stay clear of this organization and file complaints with the EEOC! Did you know Schwab has ppt. Slides tracking claims against the organization and Hostile Work Environment tops their list.


Have you experienced pressure to quit?

I have real trouble with a new manager. I've been either left out of the work that fits my skillset, or outright subjected to passive-aggressive treatment. I thought it was some personal animosity at first, now I have the impression it's a campaign to make me leave. If that's the case, why not just lay me off? It's not as if my salary makes me worth all the special attention. Have any of you had a similar experience?


WallStreetDiscriminates.com

If you haven't visited this site (WallStreetDiscriminates.com) you need to. Post to the site if you have a story to share. I'm working on drafting mine. Using these info from Forbes: Women account for roughly 30% to 35% of workplace bullies. Women bullies target women approximately 65% to 68% of the time, which is almost twice the rate that men bully women in the workforce. Workplace bullying : repeated mistreatment that can include verbal abuse, social exclusion, humiliation, and work sabotage.


Eric Reed team issues

The prior post was just about that town hall. The issues in this team go way beyond a useless town hall. Share your stories of bullying and dysfunction. We just lost the best engineering guy the company had. The story we heard was he got sick of the micromanagement and cost-cutting by leadership. Pulled his parachute. Vendors run us over and we can't do anything we need to. Thanks Mr. Reed for nothing.