#mentalhealth

After another long sh---y week, consider watching Big Mistakes on Netflix, from Dan Levy of Schitt's Creek, a new offering. It's very funny. Anyone else watching anything fun to distract from the horror?

Where or What is your worth?
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The next month will bring a lot of restructuring and layoffs. It is a harsh reminder that none of us are indispensable in the corporate machine. Remember that this job is not your identity or your measure of worth in this world. Best of luck to all of you. There is life outside of Medtronic.

I had the opportunity to leave last year and I took it. Not part of a downsizing, no severance. Just a realization that SF was not a mentally heathy company to work for and I began looking for other jobs. So many secrets, so much job insecurity, so much toxic leadership. After a year, I can look back and be thankful I had the courage to leave. My new job pays more, I feel more appreciated, and my leadership is honest and caring. One thing I've learned - trust NO ONE at SF. It's not just a cliche, it's survival advice. And, honestly, if you have the opportunity to leave, do it. I promise that your mental health will thank you.

A former coworker was laid off last year. I saw a post from him recently. He looks like a different person. Relaxed, smiling, actually happy. I'm not jealous exactly. Just aware that leaving changed something for him. I'm glad he got out.

I'm in therapy now thanks to this job. I did everything right, great reviews, no issues. New management is awful, threatening, plays favorites. I have a health condition that needs good insurance and I live somewhere with few other jobs. So I stay. But I'm done ki-ling myself for them.

So after I was laid off last year, I grew a deep seated hatred for my director and manager for my departure. My resentment knew no bounds. I cursed them everyday for sticking me in this godforsaken job market. I imagined them laughing at me and my misery.

After finding nothing for almost 6 months and wishing I was dead and gone, my hatred for my prior leadership still driving me strong, I've come to learn that they were recently dismissed at the beginning of the year and recently today.

I now feel an emptiness I can't describe. All this time hating and letting it drive my passion to surpass them and land a better opportunity, and I now feel like I don't know like I wasted my time wishing them despair. I hate them for putting me in this situation, but now they're in the same boat as me. It feels weird learning that they're gone too from T-Mobile and I don't know anymore.

She was once laid off. Now, her friends at Oracle just lost jobs. Her warning: Realise that 'your job is never your value' - The Economic Times https://share.google/8fSRzo9lnfaJQTPW8

Its awfully quiet on here. . . . where did everyone go? Is everyone emotionally exhausted from last year?

You don't see how that place consumes you and warps your perspective until you're on the other side. I don't care what comes next. I'm taking time off to reset, then I'll job hunt. Best of luck to all of you still there. Leaving Oracle isn't a blessing in disguise - it's just a blessing, plain and simple.

I need time off for my mental health. How do I even bring this up to my manager without it sounding weird or hurting me later?

Tom Petty's Won't Back Down came across the radio today. If you need a small pick up for your weekend, take a listen. Anyone else listening to music that provides some inspiration? Binge suggestions? For many, it's a long weekend. If you can take a mental break from all of this do it.

Sure would be a great time to take FMLA for anyone that can. It puts your job on hold and they cannot legally release you during that time.

I kept asking how I was doing despite having 1 bad mid year and now I just got let go. They just kept quiet for no reason and then told me its over.

Nevernorth pretty much literally unalived me at this point. 2/19 here we are 4/1 and I can't land a job for the life of me. Only place left to go is 6ft.

Hi all,
I’m mentally drained at Wells Fargo. My manager has been pushing a “performance” issue that feels completely unfair (I’d rather not get into the details on that). Today I straight-up told my boss I’m exhausted from the constant stress and asked if they could just lay me off instead of firing me for performance.
Quick questions:
• If fired how good is COBRA insurance? Or does it offer?
• Can I still get unemployment on a performance termination?
• Do they pay out remaining vacation days either way?

Any advice on handling this or what others did? I need some mental relief before jumping to another job.
Thanks!

It did not have to be this way, every single choice was made to strip the dignity from employees. Remember that as painful as this is, you are in control of your response. Be smart on your own behalf, contact an attorney if you have questions so that you can get answers that apply to you. Get that contact information from colleagues to keep in touch. Look out for each other. If you are feeling hopeless, in the US call 988.

Why is that something that's considered not just normal, but a quality that represents a hard worker? How did we allow it to get to this?

If I could leave tomorrow I would. I've been at several companies and this is the worst. Maybe it's my age (nearing 50), or burnout, or just the healthcare industry being awful. Probably all of it. I can barely drag myself in. I just wish the economy didn't have me chained here. Unless they cut me. Would be doing me a favor, really.

Yeah, it was and remains awful. Take care of yourselves first, just like the airline safety instruction. Take a couple of days to process, and make a plan that suits you best. Sending out peace and strength. If you have time to wring out everything from your benefits do it, as cr-ppy as they are.

It has been 20 years since my lay-off and I still have flashes of absolute rage. Does anybody else feel like this? I don’t want to give the people who selected me (it WAS personal) any power over me, but I genuinely felt trapped and vilified by my manager. And also the mean people from Compaq who seemed to have it out for me from the outset.

I survived the last several rounds of layoffs and I feel horrible about it. Some of the best people on our team got cut and I'm still here, with less than two years under my belt. I know logically it's not my fault, but I can't shake this guilt every time I log on.

I feel frustrated and disrespected because my manager cuts me off or dismisses my ideas before I can fully share them. It often feels like he values speed over depth and agreement over thoughtful debate. He seems to take what he needs from me, then favor others who match his style. His inconsistency makes it hard to trust or understand what he actually wants. I’m angry because I see a better way forward but don’t have the authority to act, and I feel stuck between caring about my work and protecting my mental health .

With all the changes, I fear I'll return to a place I do not recognize. After being sick for so long, it's depressing to read how much worse things have become via posts on this board.

I swear I'm so over this place. It's better being laid off than having layoffs every few months. It's wracking our mental health. It seems like it's never enough anymore. There's always a need to cut even more people. I'm not sure I can last in such an environment for much longer.

People talk like it's the most important thing, but nobody talks about what it costs you. The sleepless nights, the constant knot in your stomach, the way you carry the weight of this place into every part of your life. So yes, having a job is good, but don't tell me I should be grateful for something that's making me miserable.

I left a while ago, but oh my God did the stress not stop when I did. Working there, I stopped sleeping, stopped taking care of myself. Almost a year later and I'm still working to feel normal again, even with a much better and less toxic job. Ford leaves a mark.

One year ago I quit Fiserv, and I am constantly grateful to have made it out, thankfully to a much better position elsewhere. 
There were many things not to like, but my #1 complaint about Fiserv was that I was implementing "products" that were either not fully developed or didn't work as advertised, and I had to face clients on a daily basis and try to tapdance these services to work.  Basically I was set up to fail by Fiserv, which was an absolute waste of my time, and I quickly knew it wasn't going to be a long-term fit for me.
I was complimented on my work and well-liked by my team members, but not once did I have a week where I hit any metric goal during my time at Fiserv (not in-office hours, not sapience hours, not delivery goals...which were supposed to be 98% success rate and thus impossible to achieve, especially with sh-t products).  Early on, I just freed myself from caring about metrics and that was the only way my mental health did not suffer, and I do not regret that choice at all.  They were paying me the same whether I hit metrics or not, and I could not be stressed out by the infantilizing concern that I wasn't at my desk for 7 hours a day or whatever it was at that time.  The weekly "dashboards" that management would send me on metrics would go straight to my trash folder, unopened.  
I survived a couple big rounds of layoffs somehow, but while I was already deep into my job search, I unsurprisingly received a "Needs Improvement" on my yearly review (because of metrics).  It was about a month later I finally got a great job offer, and put in my two weeks notice.  
Sharing my story in case it resonates with anyone who thinks they should leave but aren't sure they can - you should, and you definitely can. You can all do better than Fiserv, you got this.

I realized just how much I hate and dread my job the moment I realized the relief and happiness I feel come Friday. It's almost physical. Is this really how we're going to live our lives until retirement? I have at least ten years to go, I honestly don't know how my mental health is going to take it.

I stopped caring about this job a long time ago. At this point, the only thing I want from them is a severance check. This company isn't worth my stress, my sleep, or my health. They don't get to take that from me too.

If yes, how long did it take for you to recover?

I've been getting rejected for months and this was the second company willing to interview me and the only one to result in an offer. I've only done low call volume outbound calls in Medicaid and this Customer Service Rep role says it's 60-80 inbound a day. I'm wasting $150 a month in parking at my current dead end job and this role being 100% remote is the only reason why I'm considering the $8k paycut (already tried negotiating). Do you guys think working at Optum until I get an offer elsewhere is worth it? The constant rejections are getting to me mentally, trying not to let this one offer cloud my judgement.

Does anyone know if the new headquarters has designated safe spaces for employees to express their emotions? In my role, I frequently interact with the manufacturing team, and they can be quite abrasive. Having a safe space to cry would be incredibly helpful, as I’ve heard that the parking lot is quite far away, making my car an impractical option.

CEOs and corporations don’t care if you’re sick or bedridden. Step away from work and spend that time with your family.

My mental health has taken a nose dive by working at this company and weirdly I wasn’t included in the recent round of MIX layoffs and I actually was hoping that I would be. I’m talking to a psychiatrist about FMLA at some point for mental health and I’m wondering if anyone’s had experience with that and found that when they came back to work that they just ended up getting laid off anyway and or should I just try to gather my notes and ask for a package?

I'm out right now because of this place. The stress got to me. Pressure every day, more tasks piling on, never knowing if I'll be laid off. I already deal with depression and anxiety and this job pushed me past what I could handle. My blood pressure hit over 170. Chest pains started. Other physical stuff I won't list. It's real. If you've never felt it, I'm glad for you. Just be kind to those of us who have.

Not anymore. This place has seeped into everything. I wake up dreading the day, carry it home with me, dream about it at night. It's making me hate existing. That's not an exaggeration.

Well I woke up feeling uncertain about the future but then I wrote “Verizon doesn’t care about me” on a post-it and i immediately felt better. I recommend it to my colleagues. I will look at that post-it every morning now

Not anymore. We've been through round after round of layoffs, always knowing worse was coming. I care more about my sanity than this job, and definitely more than this miserable company.

I'm tired of pretending to be okay all day but also can't unload on someone just trying to be polite. The question just forces you to either lie or be the person who always seems in a bad mood. I'd rather just skip the small talk and work.