I am the manager of three former ExxonMobil employees:
The first is desperate to please me and shows strong “boss-pleasing” behavior. It’s frustrating because I need him focused on productivity, not on feeding my ego. His results are what matter.
The second reacted strongly when I asked for help moving a table, saying it was a safety risk and refusing to do it.
The third seems to be living in the past. I hear “when I was at ExxonMobil…” at least five times a day.
I’ve started to notice a pattern. Former ExxonMobil employees often seem like they’ve gone through some kind of conditioning and struggle to behave normally in a different environment.
I don’t know what the company is doing to its employees, but it feels intense. They all come across as somewhat distressed, almost like they’ve developed an obsessive or overly rigid mindset.
I’m not sure what to do. They seem like capable employees, but their behavior is unusual, and I don’t want to fire them.
Any ideas on how to “reverse” the ExxonMobil effect?
P.S. They all say they left due to strategic changes, like departments being moved to other countries, not because of performance issues.