@OP I literally have not had employer-provided coverage options this bad, ever. Even when I worked for a small manufacturing company, the sort of place that offered 2 sick days with 5 days vacation - both only after a year - and docked salaried VPs for taking a sick day beyond the two days, their health insurance benefits were better.
Also, I feel for anyone who chooses the HPN in order to "save money". I have that this year; it is absolutely terrible, and the directory cannot be trusted. The only thing you can trust is that any cost savings will be eaten up by your future denied in-network claims, or them arbitrarily resetting your deductible at the very end of the year (the one you met by Q1) so that your EOY doctors visits are out of pocket, and you'll also be spending hours a month arguing with "family advocates" with varying degrees of interest in solving your problem, and failing to do so.
Meanwhile, my friends working for other insurers are enjoying 100% employer-paid benefits.
It is absolutely unconscionable.