For your own sanity, let go of any, it's over, all clear, we, who remain standing, are safe now, etc., because it does you no good. To the best of your ability, prepare for the worst, make smart decisions with the assumption that this is coming for everyone. Instead of being consumed with fear and anxiety, redirect that energy and make a list. Start prioritizing what you need to do to be as ready as possible. Everyone's resources will be different, but think about maintenance items, looking hard at the family budget. Be clear eyed about where you are. If changes need to be made, make them. It's heartbreaking and gut wrenching, but you will serve yourselves and your families better by being ready than by wringing your hands. Please see your doctor/therapist to discuss your concerns if you are not sleeping or struggling with anxiety. And, really, who isn't? There is lots of help available to manage that. Do not struggle alone, no one deserves this. Lastly, if you are considering self harm, call 988 in the United States for immediate help. Your family needs you here and will be here, long after all of this is over.