Would suggest to contact a tax person as I’m having someone help me.
2 things though: the cobra you paid for is deductible, but I don’t think that’s cafe 125
Cafe 125 refers to IRS Section 125, which covers cafeteria plans. These cafeteria plans allow employees to set aside pre-tax income for certain benefits, including dependent care assistance, group term life insurance, and adoption assistance.
Again, maybe hiring someone like H&R Block to minimize taxes in what I hope is an exceptional year. Reddit tax sub could also be a resource.