I’ve always wondered at people who are obviously not feeling good at all here, but who don’t leave here even after they get a decent offer. And then I got an offer and now I am the one who is in a big dilemma whether to accept it or not. I've been here for too many years, and I'm aware that nowhere is ideal (despite the romanticized stories of those who say they left and their whole lives changed for the better.)
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As the old saying goes, "Fish or cut bait." Please people, stop thinking that anything is going to change for the better. State Farm has been going downhill for a long time. Now is a great time to get out and save your mental and physical health. There are a lot of job opportunities out there now.
@1kpz-maybe she is referring to the fact that the same old whiners are on this site complaining how horrible and terrible SF is but never leave. Either they are mistaken or they can’t leave. No one with half a brain would stay if they truly believed what they are saying. As an earlier poster said this is the best hiring economy in a lifetime-you stay your choice.
@1jar. Excellent! You saved your physical health, your mental health, and your personal relationships. You may not see it just yet, but believe me you did the right move. SF is full of alcoholics, dr-g abusers, domestic violence, infidelity, etc. No one should have to deal with such hostility. The job is confrontational as it is, but to deal with that on top of it adds gasoline to the fire.
@sog….Just wondering what source you have that says SF employees cannot get hired anywhere else. I’m not aware of any polls, surveys, or actual studies that would break things down that way, for ANY company. Just you making up “facts” to suit your agenda.
I quit SF a few weeks ago to save my sanity. For years I let my job affect my personal life, my relationships, and my health. I took a $15K pay cut to leave. The day I told my boss that I was leaving, I felt a huge weight was lifted off of me. If you are that unhappy, you need to leave. Leave now.
@1vos Still isn't it amazing that the abuser never admits they abuse. SF is always right and is a perfect abuser, liar, cheat, sneak, addicted, infidelity, etc organization. Walk away from any organization that promotes this behavior for your own mental and physical health. The ones who don't will pay a high price.
@tna has it exactly right.
Abusers are very good at keeping you the victim. They make you believe you can’t do better or that anyone else would be just as bad or worse than State Farm. They do this so you will stay and then they can continue to abuse you.
Leave. I did it. Best decision I ever made. Still recovering, but trust that you don’t have to work for a company like this.
SF is like our federal government. They have bought into a totalitarian system with two classes. Rich and poor are only ones left. They have taken from the middle class and have created a progressive liberal elitist mentality. It's all about their power and control over you. It is truly sad middle management, the workers and retirees say " I cannot recommend SF for a job nor a career." That should make leadership scratch their head and ask: "What have we done to the #1 insurer?" The answer should be addressed by studying opportunity cost. The future depends on it.
Most SF employees are not hirable beyond SF. That speaks volumes about their abilities and intellect. Strongest job market in decades and yet they cannot get hired anywhere else.
@rhn+1b
Coming back to this board confirms that I made the right decision to leave.
Accept the new offer!
SF people are a very interesting breed. They consider anyone outside their "click" are out of balance when in fact they don't see how destructive they are. For example: As they communicate with you, they are on their cell phones, laptops, and other electronic equipment. They have lost the effectiveness and quality of communication. This is where the customer and the employees feel left out. It has gotten so bad that the time has been limited, employees have been marginalized, and quality has bottomed. The theory of elasticity is proven to be true not only in economics but in our ability to appreciate quality time and relationships. Companies think they can buy time and quality when they absolutely will never be able to re engineer freedom of thought.
Unfortunately army not everyone gets a severance amd clean start.
If people left - why in the world would they keep coming to this board.
The fear of the unknown and stepping out of your comfort zone is daunting. When I took severance, it felt like stepping off a cliff into the pitch black darkness. The anxiety slowly got less and less and I was able to enjoy the freedom and realize that it really was a toxic relationship. Easy? No. Worth it? Ffffuuuuck yeah!
Society normalizes unhealthy behavior (now more than ever tbh), so people may not understand or be able to recognize that their employer is abusive and likewise will dismiss or downplay the abuse. When it's gone on for too long unchecked, it destroys your self-esteem and sense of self-worth, which makes it feel impossible to start fresh because you feel absolutely worthless as you're told you are every day.
Like with bad marriages, people believe that if they hang in there long enough, things might change for the better. Like they were at the beginning of the relationship. Or simply there's too much invested to give up now, such as when retirement is on the horizon.