How to deal with bullying and ganging up to push me to quit, as they don’t want to fire me. Is it advisable to involve HR or legal ? I have tons of proof against them.
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Try to find another job while you still have a job. HR is not your friend. Met is totally disgusting. Get out and never look back
As others have stated, HR/ER/Legal are not your friends. I was part of the group that was sold off several years ago to Farmers. Several months at Farmers and the same BS continued with the same management. I quit. For years at MetLife, I would report to HR/ER/Legal that spreadsheets by management with specified project codes and hours on timesheets to be provided to and reported by employees was falsification of records. There were some project codes assigned to me that did not apply or I did not know. I was told that there was nothing wrong. Apparently, it is a violation of SOX as information impacted operating earnings for the LOB. Even though DOL OSHA informed me that there was a case that warranted an immediate investigation, I did not pursue because of the sale to Farmers. However, I did keep the documentation as it may be referenced for 7 years or after depending on content. Also, I retained other documentation for character references as other situations may apply. As for quitting Farmers, I did file for unemployment and was approved without a meeting. Documentation is key!!! My advice is that you cannot trust MetLife for their documentation as content can be falsified and you need your own to counteract against theirs. Good Luck.
If they let you go for alleged performance issues, they will also .
oppose you collecting unemployment, and they will offer you a smaller severance in exchange for you signing away many of your rights, though you cannot sign away all of them. Get a lawyer to negotiate it.
Does anyone know if they do let you go for these so said performance issues do they always provide a package?
Gems:
Sometimes finding another job is the best option.
Go see an employment lawyer.
Met’s culture is Stone Age. Bullying is rewarded. Go see an employment lawyer. A well trod path at Met is to use your disability insurance for the maximum for mental health and return to management’s PIP. Work with an attorney to document, use benefits that you pay for, and have the attorney negotiate your exit package.
@ep+1jna81pt6 HR is not on the side of the employees, so stop setting people up for their own demise. Retired means retired. Go golfing. Stay off layoff boards for your former employer.
I am a retired HR professional who worked at MetLife for several years. I was laid off a few years ago and I have retired. My recommendation is gather your documentation. Make sure any notes you have are factual and include any data/metrics, etc. Take out the commentary and/or anger in your documentation. It doesn't play well when being reviewed by HR and/or Legal. If you have emails and other written documents print them off and maintain that information where if you are terminated you have access. If there have been any "coaching" about performance issues document your efforts. Keep copies of any warnings and if there are any discrepancies in the document send a response that is very professional with the correct information. In the meantime, document your efforts for improvement. That can done various ways such as sending information to your manager about your progress, steps you are taking, etc. You can go to ER/HR if you believe your manager is going to terminate you or if you end up on a layoff list. It is a mixed bag and depends on who you get ER/HR. If you are angry and there have been performance issues, etc. it will be a tougher conversation. If you have witnesses or other people with similar concerns you may want to mention them. However, people frequently want to stay out of things and HR doesn't always get the confirmation that the employee believes their coworker will give to HR. Keep the paperwork because if you get terminated for performance some states will initially deny unemployment. So you want to make your case that you made an effort and you had raised concerns regarding employment situation and that can be helpful. Again, every state is different. Bottom line - you should assess the situation. Sometimes finding another job is the best option. If your boss is well liked/respected by their leaders...it is hard. That isn't fair. Some people are good at managing up and terrible managing their employees. Keep in mind Bullying isn't illegal. So be very specific as to what your manager is doing or saying so that it is clear. Using the word bullying means different things to different people. There are no employment laws federally about bullying. Discrimination and harassment based on protected characteristics are covered by employment law. MetLife had policies around conduct. I can't remember the name of the policy from my era.
Ok OP.
The first reply is spot on. HR is not on your side,.
OTOH, I don't see that you have much to lose, if you want to fight and get the story out.
Good luck.
@cp+1jna81pt6 , not incompetent. One of the above and beyond performer with amazing feedback from stakeholders every single year. Targeted because I questioned and gave feedback and exposed the lies of leadership. All non work related feedback, all lies and false narrative made up to boost there ego and show me they are more powerful. Forcing to accept bad feedback in performance review without making noise to avoid further upsetting the leadership.
I want them to fire me and not leave on my own. Don’t want to make it easy for them.
The incompetent gets promoted by boot licking and feeding information to bosses.
The incompetent at Met are never asked to step up. That would infringe upon their ability to bring their whole selves to work. It's the competent workers who are holding up all these mo--ns and in the process are being taken advantage of. The culture at Met enables the incompetent by coddling and placating them and abusing the smart, hard workers.
Bullied as in saying things about your job performance?
Or bullied as in saying things about non-job related things?
Why the downvote?
The company is rife with people who are incompetent and do need to be asked to step up and do their job. That's not bullying.
Bullied how?
HR and ER are NOT ON YOUR SIDE! Case in point, an AVP bullied their staff both verbally and in writing. Two of the staff filed a complaint with ER and provided the written proof. Fast forward 6 months, their positions are conveniently eliminated and they are terminated from MetLife, despite years of consistent good performance reviews. Fast forward another 6 months and the AVP was promoted to VP. Choose wisely.