I'm incapable of saying no to more work. I end up working 60-hour weeks on average and I've been told that it's on me to say no to more work, but I can't do it. When you're chronically ill and your medical depends on your employer, there are not many risks you're willing to take even for your own good. My manager has figured this out and is taking the full advantage of it. I'm stuck with no way out.
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Take a long medical leave! It’s easy to do. If you have any medical issues, have your doctor take you off work. Don’t even think twice about it!
This happened to me too. People take advantage unfortunately when they know someone has a vulnerability. It's terrible and so wrong. I found another job with a team of principled people and things got much better. I still check back here every now and then to help other folks. You can also try pushing back, talking to your boss, HR, etc. and see what happens although I wasn't in a position to do that myself. Hoping things turn around for you man!!
Don't sacrifice your health. These people do not care about YOU!
It's not personal at all.
This is ME Same OP same
If you’d really “give anything” for a chance to leave EM, then just resign. D’uh !
“ Because I'm involved in multiple projects with different reporting lines, my boss has scant idea of how much I'm involved in.”
This is a lesson I learned too late. You need to find tactful ways to make sure your boss and your boss’ boss know what you are involved in. When I met with my GM during my layoff notification, it dawned on me how clueless she was about my contributions to the company outside my day to day job. I helped people all over the company with projects in my spare time (nights and weekends), and kept an entire BU’s reserve process from going off the rails. She had no idea I did this stuff. That’s on me, I should have made sure she did.
After reading OP and @enf+1d9gVy1w, I had written a post, but decided it may not be supportive enough and more "telling them what to do". Who needs that when you are already unhappy and terribly stressed? I deleted it. To both of you, you can get out and have an enjoyable life with a lot less stress. Find a job, or a totally new career, that makes life worth getting up and going to work everyday. If you have to give up some money, downsize your life. I don't regret it and am happy, so is my family. I wish you and everyone that is so stressed and unhappy a way out.
The reality is they are likely causing your illness. Gtfo!
oh this is exactly me. I'm anxious most days about the work that keeping piling in. Because I'm involved in multiple projects with different reporting lines, my boss has scant idea of how much I'm involved in. She recently assigned me two more projects because someone else was overwhelmed, but I'm already working past midnight most days. People are constantly thanking and praising me for quick turnarounds, but I feel (wrongly of course) if I don't turnaround quick enough I'm going to get NSI next year. Funnily I was ranked Outstanding and Excellent the last two years, but I feel myself right on the edge of burnout and constantly fearful of not performing perfectly, and I feel tormented by every little mistake I make. I'm just a very low po CL 25, 40+ year old individual contributor! why is my work ki----g me