Being considered a “loser” at Exxon can feel like the only way forward for some of us to truly succeed. For many, the only escape from this environment is to step away—to leave what feels like a version of the “Squid Game” or “Hunger Games.” When you’ve had enough, you’ll leave too. If you stay, it’s often because you’re among the “favorites” or labeled as “high potential.”
Those who claim to love Exxon often seem blind to the reality—they’re the handpicked few set up to succeed at any cost. But for the majority, the system is unforgiving. Personally, I’m seen as a “loser” because I refused to play the game of currying favor with bosses. I focused on doing excellent, innovative work, which sadly went unrecognized and unrewarded.
My success will come when I leave, and use my skills where they’re truly valued. I’ll market myself to the highest bidder because I know what I bring to the table. So yes, I’m a proud “loser” at Exxon, but that’s not a failure—it’s the outcome of a predetermined system where your career level and maximum potential are decided behind closed doors.
Managers hold the keys to your path, including the maximum career level you can reach, but they’ll never tell you. Why? Because revealing it would strip away motivation. It’s all scripted—a role either favorable or unfavorable for you.