Tears spontaneously rolled cried this morning on my drive. I couldn’t believe it at first but it’s that bad to work here.
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I can’t believe people aren’t saying GTFO. Counseling? Really? HE-L NO! just leave this toxic burning dumpster fire.
Came back from vacation and felt awful. Has never happened to me before. Feels like a switch flipped or final straw broke the camels back. Something. I can’t take it anymore either. There was a time when I actually enjoyed this job. Where did it all go so wrong? I know I’m not alone. Every conversation I have ends the same way these days.
Look up yoga nidra. It’s a meditation. Literally hundreds of studies showing it can reduce stress, improve mood, etc etc.
You can find short 20 minute videos on the interwebz
Every time I receive a phishing email, I cry.
Durwood too has cried.
Hate to admit but I've been there once or twice also.
Why would you cry?
You will get paid to buy toys, houses, etc.
They certainly don't cry when they do the direct deposit into your account.
Life’s too short to be married to a bad job. You wouldn’t stay married in a bad marriage, so why stay in a bad job?
You have to learn how to vent and deflect your negative emotions away from your family and work. Do some exercises in the morning, abuse strangers on the way to work, run over a small animal in your neighborhood, knock over the trash cans of the cr---y neighbor, yell at some kids, abuse an ethnic convenience store owner. There are many ways to get rid of all that and appear like a happy normal EM employee.
Chicken wings and pizza.
I've felt like crying on the way home from work after trying so hard and getting a big load of cr-p from a know nothing supervisor. A few beers and a good sleep takes care of it. Breaking out crying on the way TO work??? Turn the F around and disengage until you can get a plan together. No job is worth that.
Oh I've had some roles with toxic companies and teams over the years. XOM would be bearable under these circumstances. Where it really gets ya, is the technical incompetence combined and the plain backwater ignorance of the fact that greener pasture avails and it's them that's stuck in the sod. It's extra special at XOM.
That's a dang shame.
Um-um-umph.
I laughed deliriously on the way to work thinking about the incredible amount of money the numnuts pay me to poontificate all day.
I was crying and screaming in my car one day on my way to Exxon. I found myself crying in my car every day at work at some point. That’s when I knew I had to quit, and I did. It is really hard to put your foot down and embrace yet another unknown, but anything is better than that soul-destroying feeling when you’re crying because you’re going to a toxic workplace that is emotionally ki----g you.
@OP Ideally you should move on before you get to that point.
Seriously, In the current job market there’s no reason stay in a job that you don’t like. You have nobody to blame but yourself for choosing to work for an employer that you know to be toxic.
Same for the rest of you, move on.
At the O&A chemical plant in Beaumont we all stand together at the begging of each shift and console each other with tears running down our faces. management has broken us down here no family time so all we have is each other. We all know the catchphrases "We are ExxonMobil and One team one mission so do as your told"
I hear you loud and clear. I have been extremely unhappy here since 2020 (the year of layoffs & forced retirements). The company chose to handle everything with unnecessary cruelty. I can’t forget all the people who were negatively affected.
I was spared and I decided to stick it out until I am RE in the hopes things would calm down & possibly improve. Well, the exact opposite has happened. It just gets worse. I just learned that hot-desking and pro rated vacation days are coming in 2023.
I have dreaded coming into work for months now, so today, I decided to just quit. It’s not worth staying another 4 years just to get 15 years. I can’t do it.
I'm sorry.
Not sure how long you have been with the company, but when I started having extreme road rage thoughts in my morning work commute, I knew soon I had to retire. Soon after they told me I could try PIP. Said sc--w it and retired.
Good luck.
If you can't stand the heat stay out of the kitchen.
I know. Ive been where you are. I started meditation about 2 years ago to help manage the stress. I also thought about seeking counseling.
Stay present and stay strong.. Put yourself first.
I agree, put yourself first. You're better than them! Be strong.
Sorry this is happening to you. We all have bad days, but if you haven't looked into it already it might be worth looking at counseling.
EM in my experience can be a stressful company to work for, and the changes lately only have compounded that for many people. Good luck!