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Thanks for the additional details. FWIW, I was in therapy a couple of different times during my SAS career and managers were part of the reason -- so I have empathy for your friend/colleague, and others here who have had bitter experiences with SAS management.
At one point long ago, I spoke to my HR rep about what was going on and she basically said "SAS put your manager in that place and it's up to you to figure out how to work things out with them -- they have the higher ground". Apparently this was JG's management philosophy.
My HR rep was empathic and went as far as to say that she was having difficulties with her manager -- someone who now holds a very high position in the company.
I had roughly 10 different managers within R&D over a 30+ year career. They pretty much matched a bell shaped curve on the continuum of bad to good.
I have no doubt that it does not ease the pain to state this, but I have heard similar stories from other companies, especially older school industry giants like IBM, Oracle, SAP, etc. and even West Coast cloud juggernauts as they have matured.
No doubt, there are a number of reasons why poor managers exist, lacking empathy and being more occupied with self-interest than the well-being of their employees being at the top of the list.
After processing a lot of the pain and cognitive dissonance surrounding some of my own SAS management situations, the biggest takeaway from therapy was accepting personal responsibility around how to de-stress, respond, move on and trust myself to make decisions in the face of their micromanaging/controlling behavior.
This helped a lot as my SAS career continued for another 25+ years after the first incident with plenty of opportunities to test/refine the therapy lessons.
On this Thanksgiving day, I'm grateful for my now completes SAS career. Was fortunate to work with many excellent professionals around the globe.