The trauma and emotions around being laid off are difficult to navigate, yet perfectly natural as they are the stages of grief. Don’t beat yourself up for how you feel, or let others make you feel wrong. It’s a normal reaction. Just try to remember a layoff doesn’t define you or your value. And we will get through this!
…The five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance — can apply to losing a job, and not necessarily in that specific order.
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@2wuv+1kvP0YO4 I hear you. I’m thinking I may contract until I find a full time job.
I am still asking myself this same question everyday of "why me?". Underpaid hard worker should not be the first ones to let go I just don't get it, things just don't add up. Then all the stress of having to look for another job outside after 12 years at Cisco when a lot of tech companies are laying off people is just too much to not be in your mind all the time. How am I going to get another job when there are thousands of people out there doing the same? It is easy for someone to say dont' worry about it it is just a job. Yes that's true but for some of us, its next to impossible to find a new job with similar pay let alone another job with the same work/life balance that you have been accustom to for many years.
@1mpv+1kvP0YO4 How often do you see individual contributors at Cisco over 50?
LOL. You must be in marketing. You should get out more.
@1mpv+1kvP0YO4 A LOT. Are you even at Cisco?
"That's just a fallacy. I've had 3 solid FT offers since Covid started, the last just last week."
This isn't about you or your small sample size. Look into the age demographics of publicly traded companies. Corporations push out 50+ employees.
How often do you see employees at Cisco that are 60? How often do you see individual contributors at Cisco over 50?
@ Post ID: @1nom+1kvP0YO4 Many people over 50 do not land other jobs again
That's just a fallacy. I've had 3 solid FT offers since Covid started, the last just last week. Plus I could have started 2 or 3 contract gigs. I'm 60. WFH has changed the game in the US for job hunters worried about ageism. If you're a good candidate, you'll get an offer.
"A company is not your family, not your mommy, not your daddy. It's just a way to make money, THAT'S IT!"
A company is your way to have health insurance and afford a place to live. What about the people with families to support? Many people over 50 do not land other jobs again
For sh*ts sake. Grow up. Back up the wambulance. Wah! Wah! You lost a job, not a limb. Get a new one. Stop putting so much emotional energy into a job. It's what you do to make money, nothing more. A company is not your family, not your mommy, not your daddy. It's just a way to make money, THAT'S IT!
It's not worth it being angry. You have to find a way to move on. The anger only poisons your own life. And I know what I am talking about. I have been angry and bitter most of my adult life. For good reasons, but it's still toxic. I am not saying it's easy to let go. In fact, it can be very hard. But it's worth it. You only have one life.
I find that revenge (legal of course) is the best coping mechanism. That revenge can take many forms.
I can’t say I’m not feeling angry because I am. I am trying to work through it not for Cisco, but for me. Don’t want to carry that baggage forward. I think as layoffs go, it could have been handled worse. It’s more that in many cases, it seems to be shortsighted. Plus the promises broken, which would hurt less if I hadn’t left a stable job at a great to come to Cisco because of promises made. It just really sucks, but in the end, I made that decision and it didn’t work out, so time to move on.
Very true....I went through these phases, but I'll never let go of the anger. NEVER. And I'm at peace with that.