Does anyone have a problem with low self-esteem after getting laid off? It bothers me a lot. Despite the fact that I am aware that the dismissal has little to do with the quality of my work, it is quite difficult for me to tell people that I am the one who was axed and who did not survive the layoffs. I feel really bad and worthless.
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I have done a few things in my career. First, take 2 days to get the anger out of your system, it is a cancer. Second - do something like a hobby or visit a place you have long wanted to see. Third and fourth - take a walk in the forest. You can talk to God or whatever form you think he exists and people will not think you crazy. Then knock and push down dead trees - great anger therapy, makes a helluva noise and you are helping nature. THEN start looking for a new better job.
There are lots of jobs as techs available in the Independent Dealer community. Just check places like Indeed, Simply Hired and so on. Tons less stress, better environment, comparable pay and good benefits. Just look around and adjust to change. Good Luck.
After experiencing Dr Jay who is now up to her same old self-promotion antics at MasterCard, the relief to work outside of Xerox for people who care about the job first is refreshing and a confidence booster.
Here a link to a therapist that can help:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWhr2xevNKY
Take it with a pinch of salt! Any potential knows what a mess Xerox had been run in the past decade leading to what it is today. Need on Xerox is all over.. do, no worry!
Not to worry. Self castration syndrome slowly
dissipates once one is free from Xerox. Take
two shots of tequila or one shot whiskey for best results.
If anything your confidence should increase dramatically due to no longer being affiliated with one of the worst run organizations ever.
You are not your job. Most skills are transferable. And remember, the tough get going when the going gets tough. Fate is how you deal with the cards you are dealt. Either you cry or you man up. Your call.
Hang tough. My years at Xerox taught me that management likes to debase their employees especially the ones who know more than they do..
omg, if anything I realize I am way too good at my job to give my brains to Xerox any longer....being laid off would be a Godsend and give me time to find a job that will really appreciate my skill set, because after what I have seen these past few years "the less you know the higher you go".... and I mean this company is run by id–ts who promote other id–ts who have no idea how to make sure work is getting done efficiently and correctly
It’s normal to feel the way you do after being laid off. What helped me to feel better was finding ways to be useful to myself and others. That will be a bit harder during the pandemic but it’s not impossible. For me a regular morning work out schedule gave me a reason to get up & get moving. I always showered and got dressed because laying around in jammies or sweats all day made me feel like a slug. I spent time networking & attending workshops on resume writing, interviewing, etc. Interacting with other people was important for me to keep my spirits up. Right now a lot more of that will be online but it’s still important. Take some time to think about what you really want to do next. Do you want to head in a different direction career wise, go part time, retire, volunteer? What kind workplace are you looking for if you plan to continue working? Take this time to do some exploration & you may find yourself in a much happier place when move to the next stage of your life. Good luck!
For those of us still in Xerox you can take steps now to prevent these feelings of inadequacy. Start by cutting back on the amount of effort you put into your job. How far should you cut back? It should be commensurate with the compensation decreases you've suffered in decreased 401K benefits and increases in health care costs. Turn despair into hatred towards the incompetent leaders who are making fortunes from the death our company. When your turn comes you can look back and have some consolation in the fact that you didn't sacrifice everything for the nincompoops at the top. Replace the anguish about your own self worth with scorn and enmity towards the real culprits. The burden belongs on them, we can walk away with a clear conscience.
Note to others: if you want to avoid this; It would be worthwhile to leave Xerox before
This is perfectly normal after being laid off. Take a bit of time to grieve your loss and only a bit. Next, sit down and think of all the skills you gained in your years there and write them down. Put down anything you've ever done. You will be surprised at what you know and what you can do. You also then have the foundation to build your resume and your talking points for your interviews. I was where you are a year ago today. It took a bit but I received two job offers at once. You are where you are because of a c-appy company run by fools. Don't let it define you!
My own internal narrative would have said the same. I get it. But DO NOT. If it was recently then it was not based on anything but your salary. We are all numbers to xerox. Nothing more. And newsflash to anyone and it took me a while to see it - xerox is a bit of a cult. Your life worth becomes entangled on it. It’s just not worth your mental health. You are worth more than xerox values you.