The back and forth on management is not helping you and your families. Management has made it abundantly clear that they don't care about you and whatever you've done before. Unless you are waiting out to retire - it is time to find a new job!
There will be a huge IT change in a few weeks. There will be changes in all parts of the organization again and again. Find a place where you are appreciated and you can have a future. Find a new job.
Everyone deserves to feel appreciated and valued for their contributions! Go find that place for you. It is not at CareFirst anymore.